VICTIM BLAMING: NO ONE DESERVES TO BE ABUSED.

According to Wikipedia, Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially responsible for the harm that befell them. 

The most common emotional responses to sexual harassment, battering, and rape are guilt, fear, powerlessness, shame, betrayal, anger, and denial. Guilt is often the first and deepest response. Anger may arise only later; this is not surprising, because women often have no sense of a right to be free from these kinds of violence.

Women may feel guilty about violence done to them because they are taught that their job is to make men happy, and if they aren't, they are to blame. Many of us heard from our parents, "Boys will be boys, so girls must take care"-- the message being that women can avoid unwanted male attention if only they are "careful enough." If anything goes wrong, it must be their fault. 

Blaming the victim releases the man who commits violence from the responsibility for what he has done. Friends or family may blame the victim in order to feel safe themselves: "She got raped because she walked alone after midnight. I'd never do that, so rape won't happen to me."

(Culled from www.feminist.com)

This in itself excuses the act perpetrated by boys. Everyone should be responsible for their actions. If we begin to enlighten and educate our boys in this respect, they will understand that their actions will have repercussions. This might help curb sexual violence and could possibly educate/eliminate victim blaming. (Ayodeji Osowobi- Stand To End Rape Initiative).

No one deserves to be abused either physically or physically no matter the circumstances. Men who undergo abuse find it difficult to speak out because the society blames such a man for being a weakling. Emotional abuse is more deadly than physical abuse. Don't keep silent, forget about what the society will say. Seek for help. Reach out to the appropriate authorities.

In order to stop victim blaming, it is helpful to understand why people do it in the first place. One reason people blame a victim/ survivor is to distance themselves from an unpleasant occurrence and this gives a false sense that this could not happen to them. By labeling or accusing the victim/ survivor,others can see the victim/survivor as different from themselves. We need to help people understand that this is not a helpful reaction.

(Culled from www.stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/avoiding-victim-blaming)